The Life Lesson of Cheating

The Life Lesson of Cheating
We all know the story of the guy or girl cheating in the relationship. But the question is, what do we do about it? I will try to give some advice to simple life lessons for others to learn.

Well, for starters, let me be blunt with you, if your partner cheats: There's nothing you can do to stop them. If you're the cheater, well, you should feel guilty, but only YOU control YOUR actions.

Generally the excuse is that the relationship is becoming boring. Or in other terms one person is becoming dissatisfied with their partner (if not both). This can become a problem, the simple solution? Break up. Don't tell yourself "oh it'll get better" or "it's not always like this" because if one of you is about to stray, it's not going to last. Alright, other than that here's another simple solution. Don't go stray; separate (break up). I'll rephrase that last sentence so other people can understand 'If you're going to cheat, just break up so that it's not considered cheating.' Okay since that's done, lets get into the real stuff.

1. If you've already cheated and don't know what to do now, tell your partner what you've done. Don't tell your friends, don't keep it to yourself. Relationships are built on trust, and that means telling your partner the soul truth. If you don't, I can guarantee that 90% of the time they will figure it out. Just because I say 90%, don't immediately assume that you can be one of the 10%. If they don't know that you've strayed, they're probably pondering it. The best thing to do? Tell your partner. If the other person is willing the relationship can continue, or if that's not what you want, then just say that you know you did wrong by not breaking up with them sooner, but you don't think the relationship should continue. Granted this is a harsh way of doing it, since you're basically telling them "I cheated and now I'm dumping you" which can translate in many other ways. Some examples would be, 'I cheated and the person I cheated on you with was better, so now I'm dumping you.' Or 'You're not good enough and I'm moving to the better person.'

2. If you don't know what cheating is, let me help you out. You are cheating if you do any of the following with anyone else besides your significant other.

1.    Kissing
2.    Making out
3.    "Fooling around"
4.    Having sex

3. Beware of more than the physical cheating, most partners are really keen noticing these things. Now this list varies from person to person. So if you don't know if your partner thinks if it's cheating or not; it's time to talk to them. The list is/ but not limited to:

1.    Flirting
2.    Saying sweet things
3.    "Secret" meetings
4.    Writing love poems
5.    Writing song lyrics
6.    Giving presents

The best thing to do is to talk things out with your partner and clear the air. That way the other person can decide what to do; forgive or not. This is a simple thing. If you want a relationship to flourish, you have to be honest with your partner. As I stated before: Don't tell your friends! If the information is burdening you, how do you think your friend feels. Unless it's something your proud of, then you need to get a different perspective on life.

Anyway, this concludes my Life Lesson on Cheating.

(If you would like to give me your perspective, please comment.)