So most of us lie on a daily bases, if not an hourly one. I'd like you to think about a time when you lied and it came back to bite you in the butt. I'm sure that you all can agree that 95% of the time it probably came back to you and slapped you in the face. Today, I want to discuss the many life lessons that can be learned from lying. I know each situation is different, therefore, if you have a story you would like to share, comment and I'll gladly read it and give you my opinion. I'll also give advice if anyone wants it. Anyway, back to my initial idea. The life lesson on Lying.
Alright, since all issues are different, so I'll just give a few examples. I know someone who went and got drunk with a bunch of friends while her mother was at a friends. She was in her Oma's (Grandmother's) house with her sister. It was when she got home that she realized she had had a little too much to drink. When she got upstairs she threw up on the tile. It didn't take long for her sister to walk down and help her clean up. Her sister went to their Oma and got medicine to settle her stomach, and gave it to her. The next morning she had a pretty bad hangover. By the time she got downstairs her Oma had talked with her mother telling her she was worried about her. So when she got there her mother asked her what happened and she lied. She said she drank the wine that had been in the fridge. Her mother knew it wasn't enough to make her drunk. However, her mother didn't press it, and later on she slipped and got herself caught. Her mother punished her for the summer, because she lied, not because she got drunk.
(These details may be a bit wrong, you know who you are so email me if I messed up and tell me what I need to correct.)
The lesson to learn in this situation is that lying may get out of trouble temporarily, but had she just told the truth everything would have been fine. Granted not all parents are that understanding about their kids drinking while underage, but please take into consideration that this took place in Germany and it was legal for her to drink.
The Lesson? : Sometimes just telling the truth is the best option. It puts you up at risk, but at least no one can turn around and say that you lied first and let the hatred boil over the fact that you lied.
I don't have anymore stories on me at the moment, but I can give you a few tips anyway.
- Don't lie to your friends
- Don't lie about yourself to anyone your interested in
- Don't lie in a relationship
- Don't lie about past relationships
- Don't lie about your plans
The Lesson? : If you lie to your friends, you're possibly risking your friendship, if not your trust with your friends.
2. Not lying about yourself seems like an easy say, but so many people do lie about themselves. To make themselves look better, or to make others look bad. Exaggeration is easy to understand since almost everyone does it. However, if you lie and say something like "I love cats" when you really hate them, well you can be sure that that won't end well. Like any lie, you'll probably be caught in your own web of lies. This ends up making you look worse when you get caught. If you're trying to get a girl/guy, chances are, they don't want a partner that can't even be honest about themselves. The only person you're hurting by lying about yourself is you.
The Lesson? : Lying about yourself, only pins you against yourself, so be honest about yourself to others and you will feel free and in the long run it will help you to just be yourself, even if you're a nerd. If you're naturally a jerk, well, then it's time to start learning to change.
3. Don't lie in a relationship. It just ends badly. It can be a small lie, but I can assure you; women don't forget and they will hassle you. I can also assure you that men can hold things over your head. Either way, lying in a relationship is a bad idea. If you know your partner well enough you'll figure it out. And if you lie, the other person may assume bad things like cheating, sleeping around, and the like.
The Lesson? : If you want to hurt your relationship, lie. If you want a relationship that works, don't lie. Not lying isn't a promise for success, but it does help.
4. It's easy to say not to lie about past relationships, but can people really do it? Sometimes we make our old partner the bad guy, or we dim down the passion that was there to make our new lover feel safer. The simple fact? If you tell them "I had a strong connection with them, and we had a good relationship, but it fell apart, and I lost that loving connection" (Only say this if it's true. If it's not, well I hope you're not looking for a new relationship.) Other lies that should be avoided is playing up your relationship and saying "oh he/she took me out to eat at all these high class restaurants" etc. Don't make your new partner feel the need to compete with your old one. It causes bad blood.
The Lesson? : If you want a good and balanced relationship, don't play your old relationship up or down. Be honest or you'll cause instant negative emotions in the relationship.
5. I know saying not to lie about your plans seems stupid, but lets say you tell your friends you have homework to do, but you're really at a party somewhere. Even though the chances are slim, always assume that one of your friends can find you. Or even worse; your parents. And really, who would want to lie to their parents and be caught. That would be embarrassing. If your friends found out, well you'd have a bunch of accusations on your shoulders.
The Lesson? : Don't lie about your plans unless you feel like listening to lectures for hours or want to risk losing your friends.
And that's all I have to say on my lesson on Lying.
If you have a story you want to share, please comment.
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