There’s always a strong sense from adults for children to be responsible, and the other way around. I can tell you that it’s a cycle. The simple fact is that some people really just don’t like to take responsibility for their actions or anything. If you’re one of those people, you’re probably not looked upon highly. I know that sounds cynical or rude, but in all honesty, if you always shove blame on others, you’re really not earning yourself friends. Simple as that. Therefore, I am talking about responsibility today. (Wow, such a stern topic!)
Responsibility is something that everyone has, whether it be cleaning a house, or taking care of a child, or even just simple chores. The problem is that a lot of us don’t do them (myself included). When we don’t do our chores, it gets us in trouble most of the time. But the worst issue is when we don’t take responsibility for our own actions. I hope you’re not saying “I do!” Because I can guarantee that you aren’t always taking the responsibility upon yourself. Rather I have met enough people who love to place the blame on others. Why? Because, they don’t feel like being yelled at or criticized. I understand that. However, I guess if each of us took a little bit more effort, then we wouldn’t be stuck in such situations. Sounds simple enough, right? Wrong. Doing things like that will take self-control and self-discipline. (I’m not one who is good at either). So here are some tips on how to achieve that.
- Tell yourself you have no reason to lie
- If you just get it done, it's done
- Don't procrastinate
- No excuses
- Reflect upon yourself
1. Telling yourself that you have no reason to lie is one thing, you have to believe it. If you tell yourself something long enough, you’d be surprised at how well things like that work. When we as humans feel cornered and are afraid of the consequences our fight or flight response kicks in. Generally we pick flight, which usually leads to lying. By taking a breath and saying that you have no reason to lie, you are trying. Once you’ve convinced yourself tell them the truth. This will save you from more trouble later should you be figured out or caught in your lie.
2. I know almost all of us have heard “if you get it done right the first time, you won’t have to do it again” and I also know that most of us add on “and if you do it right the first time no one really appreciates it.” But the main factor is that by adding that on we are providing our mind with an escape of responsibility. It’s something that we shouldn’t do since we end up hurting ourselves more. If we don’t do things correctly, we only have to put in more effort afterwards to fix what we didn’t. By doing this we also put ourselves out to feel resentment for the people who are lecturing us and telling us we aren’t doing anything.
3. I know we all love to do it. Procrastination. It’s like a disease. “Why do something now if you can put it off till later?” Because if you put it off till later, you’ll hear complaining and the like. Who likes that? If you do, then go ahead, keep doing it. Personally we just need to find the motivation to keep ourselves from putting things off. My motivation is that I won’t have to hear the endless hours of lecturing. Plus the sooner I finish, the sooner I can move on onto something I like doing, rather than getting interrupted in the middle and having to do the stuff I put off. I’m sure all of you feel the same about hating being interrupted, there’s your motivation.
4. Excuses, excuses, excuses. Are you familiar with this phrase? I used to be, before I turned my life around and just told people the truth. Not only did it make me feel better, but that’s all up to the individual. If you make excuses, be warned, after a while no one will really tune you in when you start telling them. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen, and it is never pretty. So try using the honest path and just telling things as they are. At least then they’ll listen to you, and likely believe you when you talk about things that are important.
5. I guess saying to reflect upon yourself is something simple. The fact is, most people don’t know how to do it. I used to not know it either. Then I realized something that helped me. At night, about thirty minutes before I went to bed I would think about the day and if I had done anything wrong or the like. In those thirty minutes I would think of ways that I could better myself. Doing this every day, I realized a common pattern and just worked on bettering one thing at a time. Try it. It may work for you.
That’s all I have to say about the Life Lesson of Responsibility.
If you have any stories or tips, comment, I will gladly read them, and may even put them into this post.
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